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My wife thinks…

In Everyday on March 22, 2023 at 7:26 pm

…that I’m rather good with words. She believes that the choices I make while speaking often help me lead conversations, and in some cases ‘win’ in them. In other words, I create holes in an argument and can navigate myself out of difficult conversations.

I didn’t have much to do today and so decided to write my way out of ennui.

Normally I use too many words, but since I don’t really do this for a living, you’ll have to excuse the pointlessness of what you’re reading. On second thought, it probably doesn’t even matter. This is what us old-timers on the internet call a ‘blog’. Blogs have been and usually stuck to the format of simple words put together with the purposeful intention of not arriving at anything. Sometimes leaving the reader with the feeling of wanting more, but usually ending up with the fear of wasting time. A commodity that’s so scarce that you’re normally better off scrolling through Instagram and feeling fulfilled. Or better yet, creating something to post on Instagram. Those are the prolific ones of these times. Every era has them. Mine had forummers running rampant on several forums every day. Followed by bloggers, who were usually the same people that were on forums but here they could own their own space, and craft an identity unique to them (pro tip: look up stream of consciousnesses). This was soon followed by the video explosion. It’s not that video didn’t exist while forums ruled the world, it’s just that 3G and its successors were a science fiction subject and so obviously not meant to be taken seriously. Also, smartphones of yesteryear were actually feature phones with state-of-art technology like infrared and never-ending pixel loops known as games, more popularly referred to as Snake. This is well before the iPhone and the first Android. I remember the genuine fear of them taking over the world and enslaving humanity. Only to realize too soon that that’s an adult problem and not things that teenagers need to worry about. We were focused on our blogs and other artistic pursuits. Today we see the same passion in a new form. Coupled with the video explosion, these passions now manifest themselves as Vlogs. The relationship between Vlogs and Blogs can be understood by observing what exists between electric cars and cars. Futuristic, lesser understood and everyone’s promising of getting one. A part of me wishes that this was a vlog. But that’s a slippery slope. If this was a video, then the next thing I’d want to be would be an influencer. A real one who gets paid to create unlike me who’s answering phone calls from his wife while writing this and responding with ‘nothing’ to the world’s toughest question, What are you doing! This really is a messy one. It needs to be something smart, maybe even witty because that’s whom I identify as. It shouldn’t seem like too much fun and should leave the caller with so much awe that they reply with the intended outcome of ‘Cool’, and if you’re lucky, ‘what’s that!’. The explanation of which leaves you feeling true to your identity. Unless the conversion leads to a ‘fuck that’ or ‘bullshit’. That’s the feeling you’re probably having right now. I feel you. Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, and/or difficulty. I was in a difficult position when this began. I feel you. My wife thinks that I use words to my advantage, and to be honest, I’d rather be known for other things.

Photo Credit: Ashmolean Museum, University of Oxford

To My Oldest Living Grandmother.

In Everyday on March 15, 2022 at 3:00 am

14 March 2022

Ende Ammachi. You grew old, I grew up.
Never ever gave any thought to when your life would let up.

Fond of you as any quiet grandchild you see.
Eating away my childhood, naadan snacks, and your home’s TV.

Life is filled with pities like missing your send-off.
Today it’s been a year, but old memories can’t be walked off.

Tears are a bump for we live against a clock.
Why it only took until 2 am Monday, for these simple words I chalk.

Time is cruel, but with it, on me, you grew.
At first scared, especially when you pulled my tooth or two.

Out went the first one, and I knew that you were nice.
God knows that dentists aren’t that swift or precise.

Today was a mess, but so were your last days.
Memories and the mind you lost in many ways.

From knowing life’s experiences to becoming a child again.
Somehow I’m happy that you relived happiness through all your pain.

Now that you’ve gone, I feel like I should try my best.
Thus dared a boy to sit down and cry like the rest.

A year late, but that’s always been my fate.
Maybe later, even this day will just be a date.



How to update the address on your Aadhaar Card, online – November 2021

In Everyday on November 30, 2021 at 8:49 pm

I’ll be honest. This was a task that I dreaded even before I actually got around to doing it.

You know the drill. Government documentation is all about knowing ‘what’ to do in a world where people suggest getting an ‘agent’ for everything. But things weren’t oh-so-bad. In fact, the process was quite simple and I did it all over again for my wife as well. Here’s what we did:

Step 1: Log onto with your personal credentials

Step 2: Go to ‘Update Aadhaar Online’

Step 3: Then there are clear steps to follow. Take a look:

Step 4: You can then proceed to update your Name, Date of Birth, Gender or Address. They also mention the number of turns you have left. After which you may make the changes you need.

Step 5: Status Check. Now every time you log-in, there should be a Requests section that holds the latest update about your changes. It should say ‘Completed’

Printing a PVC Card version of your new Aadhaar is also possible similarly. Takes a fee of INR 50/-

That’s it!

A decade (or so) at a posh building.

In Everyday on July 9, 2021 at 10:31 pm

Originally written in September 2019.

In Bombay, when people ask you where your office is, the answer can sometimes make the questioner decide certain things. Things like whether they would like to do business with you or not.

It’s how one can build a perception of how large or small your company is.

I’m actually being quite judgemental myself by saying that this is a Bombay thing. This is more of a human thing.

Something like this Princeton Study.

So, whenever I visited the GroupM India office at the Westin building in my early 20’s, there was always an aura of awe. The awe of doing business with a company that can afford to be housed at what then seemed like one of the most premium commercial premises available, at least for an advertising agency.

But actually, it wasn’t like ‘I’ was doing this so-called business with them. I worked at a (then, as in 2011) much smaller boutique agency that was one of the preferred vendors for a certain now overly commoditized creative service. But I loved going there for meetings. Loved it so much that I took the first chance I got at a job interview in that building. In fact, at the time of the interview, I was unemployed and seeking immediate employment after my deal with a rival and equally large organization went south on the joining day. Short story time: Before my joining date, I was asked to come in a few days earlier and pick up a handover from the person I was replacing. Seemed straightforward, but it turned out to be a massive blow to my plans of working closer to home. Strange how the Talent team handled that. I knew that if Day minus 5 was like a bummer (I’m being nice), then the days of life ahead couldn’t be extravagantly different. The End.

Then came along the aforementioned interview. At this point, I was ready to take up smaller (read less pay) offers because of the not-so-respectable behaviour that I witnessed at a large firm. I thought that maybe I wasn’t cut out for the big league. Maybe I was just a young kid with big dreams but without the necessary skill set to own the floor at a large firm. The confidence that I had brewed in my mind because of being exceptional at a smaller firm felt hollow. The clientele was the same as the big league. But when a hiring manager tells a 20-nothing person that they’re still untested on the ‘real field’, it doesn’t help inspire confidence of any kind. It in fact, led to my own use of that terrible thing to say to interviewees the following year.

Being the underdog wasn’t a choice or a rebellious teenage headline. It was an unwanted necessity.

I just realized that I’ve written more about the shitty experience than about the shit that I actually wanted to write about. Can you imagine the so-called childhood trauma?

Course correction and fast forward.

I got the job. Loved everything about it. The people, the role, the company and more important(to this story) the office. When people don’t understand your job (digital media *facepalm*), they try and judge its potential using other external factors. So when someone outside of the biz heard that the office is at the Westin, and occupies 3 whole floors, it definitely left a strong impression of success. I didn’t realize when, but somewhere there was some notoriety with that impression which I started enjoying. So whether it was at a family gathering or a college reunion, no matter how little anyone cared about the business of creativity, they cared about the prestige associated with the address.

That was at 23. Now I’m 30. The charm of the job has definitely waned. The roles have changed. The people have moved on. Hell, we had a merger a year-and-a-half-ago so the name of the company changed as well. At the lowest point of the job (and there always will be), the only thing that made going to work feel special was knowing that the damn building doesn’t flood in the monsoon, doesn’t melt in the summer and didn’t look shitty at any point of the year. Basically doesn’t feel like Bombay.

This was, in my opinion, the single greatest factor of enjoyment in those times: at least the building looks great!

This is probably why I’m writing this great good-bye to the building.
No, I didn’t lose my job. The whole company is shifting! To a place that’s actually halfway closer to home.

So, to new beginnings and remembering the good ol’ Westin days!

The agency life.

In Everyday on August 29, 2018 at 5:13 pm
Originally drafted in July 2014.

Work is…

Follow up
Where is my payment
Client Delight
Passion Project(s)
What happened to sleep
New Business
No sleep


Curated excerpts from real life:

Research timeline: 3 minutes.
Sources: Two scrolls of Twitter. @adweak

Don’t they?

In Everyday on November 21, 2013 at 4:20 am

Everyone has their obsession.

Having Everything

In Everyday on February 19, 2013 at 5:44 am
  • Great Smartphone
  • A tablet
  • Brilliant D-SLR
  • Awesome Computer
  • Huge External Hard drive
  • Acoustic Guitar
  • Bass Guitar and kicking amp
  • 9 pairs of shoes
  • All those clothes
  • Youth
  • Vices
  • Hot girlfriend
  • Wild friends
  • Sweet family
  • A home in a great location
  • 2 cars 


Having Everything

Having Everything

This isn’t a wish list. This is the list of things that I have, and I’m sure that I’m forgetting stuff.

I recently quit my job, and I miss the money coming in. My independence is affected.

Sure, many might say that I sound like a douche. Some may call it greed. Some may even understand what it’s like to have an ambition bigger than most. Some of those people are my friends.


Such is, the twenties of your life. When even everything, just isn’t enough.

On a Monday…

In Everyday on July 30, 2012 at 6:18 am


…things just seem to go another way.

You normally love the blues,

But right now, you’re looking for different hues.

Life Wasted!

In Everyday on July 4, 2012 at 8:53 am

Just to bring you up to speed: I’ve been in this auto richshaw for 2 hours 30 minutes and counting. We (the auto guy and I) are on the verge of becoming friends for life. We even had a fight and got over it.

Taking in the smoke from a thousand vehicles while replying to work emails, I remembered how much of our lovely lives are put to waste with because of something that’s so silly that most of us look don’t even look at this as a problem.

Such is the nature of traffic. It consumes you and your time. But it’s one of those things that take a back seat in your minds. Just like the bad things that can happen to you because of junk food.

abhishek chandran life wasted

My friend, the auto guy has ditched me. So much for that friendship!

Suddenly, clouds!

In Everyday on June 13, 2012 at 1:32 pm


Good evening sky!

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